The good, the bad and the ugly of relationships
When developing positive relationships it can help to know what behaviours are associated with a good relationship and the warning signs that you might be heading into or creating a bad or 'ugly' relationship. The resources on this page provide some advice on knowing and understanding the difference, and what is meant by consent.
Resource: Years 7 to 8
This table explains respectful relationships. The ‘good’ column outlines positive actions and feelings, the ‘bad’ and ‘ugly’ columns are negative behaviours and feelings and are not signs of a respectful relationship.
|I can see my friends or family whenever I want.
|I feel overwhelmed by what they want.
|I have to watch what I do or say around them.
|I feel ok about saying ‘no’ to things I don’t want to do.
|I feel stuck in this relationship.
|I’m worried about what my partner might do if I tried to leave them.
|My partner likes introducing me to his/her friends.
|I hate it when my partner talks to other guys/girls.
|My partner makes me feel scared of them.
|They like me for who I am.
|I wish my partner was different.
|My partner pressures or guilt-trips me into sex.
|They listen to me and care about my opinions.
I wish we didn’t see so much of each other.
|They snoop and read my texts or messages.
|We spend our spare time together.
|I worry that my partner is cheating on me.
|When we go out, we decide together what we’re doing.
|They get jealous of who I hang out with.
|When we’re together, I feel like I can be myself.
|They ignore me when their mates are around.
|When we’re together, we laugh and have fun.
|We have the same fights over and over again.
|With sex and affection, I can say what I like and don’t like.
|When we’re hanging out, I wish I was somewhere else.