The good, the bad and the ugly of relationships
In developing positive relationship it can help to know what behaviours are associated with a good relationship and the warning signs that you might be heading into or creating a bad or 'ugly' relationship. The resources on this page provide some advice on knowing and understanding the difference, and what is meant by consent.
Resource: Years 7 to 8
This table explains respectful relationships. The ‘good’ column outlines positive actions and feelings, the ‘bad’ and ‘ugly’ columns are negative behaviours and feelings and are not signs of a respectful relationship.
|I can see my friends or family whenever I want.||I feel overwhelmed by what they want.||I have to watch what I do or say around them.|
|I feel ok about saying ‘no’ to things I don’t want to do.||I feel stuck in this relationship.||I’m worried about what my partner might do if I tried to leave them.|
|My partner likes introducing me to his/her friends.||I hate it when my partner talks to other guys/girls.||My partner makes me feel scared of them.|
|They like me for who I am.||I wish my partner was different.||My partner pressures or guilt-trips me into sex.|
|They listen to me and care about my opinions.||
I wish we didn’t see so much of each other.
|They snoop and read my texts or messages.|
|We spend our spare time together.||I worry that my partner is cheating on me.|
|When we go out, we decide together what we’re doing.||They get jealous of who I hang out with.|
|When we’re together, I feel like I can be myself.||They ignore me when their mates are around.|
|When we’re together, we laugh and have fun.||We have the same fights over and over again.|
|With sex and affection, I can say what I like and don’t like.||When we’re hanging out, I wish I was somewhere else.|